my attempt

Be patient.

Be as understanding as you can be.

Don't push.

Work on clear communication skills.

Be as non-judgmental as you can be about her process. She will progress at
her own pace no matter what you think or say, so save yourself some
arguments and heartaches.
 If you can't stand it, find a therapist to talk to. Or join a
group for partner of abused women. If there is no such group in your
community, find a therapist who would be willing to form one.